Some people thrive on surprise and are more willing to take risks,
other folks are the opposite—more comfortable with predictability,
structure and what is familiar. Psychologists offer their own
explanations based on the type of person and their traits.
Temperament is another explanation of how people learn and behave.
One my favorite books is
Narcissus and Goldman, by
Hermann Hesse (
German: 2 July 1877 – 9 August 1962).
He describes the lives of two friends who are similar and very
different. They meet in a monastery. Narcissus is older and preparing
to be a monk, while young Goldmund is brought by his father to live
at the monastery and be trained.
The two bond in friendship and Goldmund comes to revere Narcissus
and tries to emulate him. The two share in the practice of prayer and
austerity. They have deep conversations, and Narcissus soon observes
that Goldmund might not be cut out for a monastic life. Goldmund is
handsome and has an earthiness not easily given over to the cerebral
disciplines. Narcissus intimates this to Goldmund but it hurts the young
devotee.
Before long, Goldmund leaves the safety of the monastery to explore and
discover life in all its aspects. His adventures are myriad and he
throws himself with abandon into every experience, tasting life and
death, becoming an acclaimed artist, knowing many loves, accumulating
vast experience and growing wise while he finds his true nature being one with the world. He never forgets Narcissus, but is
following his own course which pulls him inexorably forward.

Narcissus remains austere and in sacred study. His life is
strictly disciplined and he becomes an initiate of the inner verities
of the spiritual realm. He knows his loneliness and accepts it. He
gains peace through rational thought and surrender to the divine.
Through plot twists and turns, Narcissus enters Goldmunds life at
the end and saves him from execution.
I identify strongly with both of the characters and it is why I
have read and re-read this masterpiece.
Some of my other favorite books are by Russians:
Anna Karenina,
and
War and Peace by
Leo Tolstoy (28 August 1828 – 20 November 1910), and
The Idiot, and
The Brothers
Karamazov, by
Fyodor Dostoyevsky (11 November 1821 – 9 February 1881).